temple night
every second sunday of the month | 5-10pm | penha de frança, lisbon
Next temple on Oct. 12th facilitated by Simon
WHAT IS A temple?
Think: a big room with a romantic-ish vibe, a group of sober people all together figuring out the awkwardness of being human and connection through play, ritual and (Maybe surprising) depth.
we gather with the intention of dropping the masks for a moment and getting real with each other: what actually happens when i meet myself and others with full honesty?
in a temple, you get to feel and express that realness (and maybe also wtf gets in the way of it).
temples are built on clear group agreements (call it ground rules if you want), consent and your own choice of how far and deep you want to go.
Vulnerability is kind of unavoidable here, babes, and that is what often creates real intimacy in a temple.
is this your first temple?
- IS THIS YOUR FIRST TEMPLE? -
is this your first temple? - IS THIS YOUR FIRST TEMPLE? -
New to temple, babes? Temple is not an entry-level space.
To step in, you need the tools: knowing how to navigate consent and having the embodied language that makes intimacy work. This is about you feeling resourced and grounded and preparing you to navigate the intensity that temple spaces potentially have with clarity.
And it’s also what then allows the group to go deeper together.
If you’ve never been to a temple before, you start with a workshop. That’s a non-negotiable here at Lisbon Temple Nights.
We offer it on the same day, so you can join the workshop first and then move into the temple afterwards, ready (well… as ready as you can be) and prepared.
We also recommend the workshop for anyone curious to deepen their human-ing skills and embodiment.
a temple IS AN EXPERIENTiAL SPACE.
THIS MEANS: instead of talking about concepts or learning any theories, you get to engage your own senses and emotions and actually feel that in your body (a fancy word for it: embodied).
Whatever excites you, challenges you, turns you on, pisses you off, makes you melt, grieve or giggle - it all belongs here.
a temple is where you can find your own answers by simply having your own experience: with yourself, with others, with whatever is present.
no two temples are ever the same. A temple is unpredictable and only works if you bring yourself in. everything you show (Or don’t show) shapes this group experience because you - and your expression - matter.
A temple is to be lived in, felt, interacted with.
what to expect
(and what not to expect)
1. Embodied Self-Discovery
❌ This isn’t a place to pretend to be someone you’re not or play a certain role. You don’t need to try to be impressive. Here you get to drop all of that.
➡️ Meet yourself as you are. Connect deeply with your body and uncover patterns that shape the way you do life. Become a little bit more you.
2. Grounded in Consent & Choice & CARE
❌ There’s no forced intimacy, no ‘just push through it’ mentality, no expectation to hit some kind of spiritual or erotic milestone.
➡️ Explore connection at your own pace, with full agency over your involvement. You will never be asked to disregard your needs or silence your boundaries.
3. Creating interdependence
❌ There’s no “everyone for themselves” and “what can I get out of this for me”. We try not to follow those old scripts of transactional relating.
➡️ Remember that we shape each other and we’re meant to grow in the web of others. We discover the sweet spot where yours and another’s truth can meet.
4. Slow is the new safe
❌ There’s no peak experience to chase here. This isn’t about throwing yourself into the deep end just because you think you should.
➡️ Go at a pace that supports you not to overrun what wants to be heard, seen or felt. You’re encouraged to create your experience according to your fuckyes.
5. intimate doesn’t mean sexual
❌ This isn't a sex party. No one is owed anything: not attention, touch or access to you. There are no goals or agendas attached to what intimacy means here.
➡️ Indulge in true intimacy: vulnerability, dropping your walls and cracking your heart open. Your erotic expression is welcomed as a natural part of your human-ness if this is what feels alive for you, however it isn’t the focus here.
what happens inside a temple
this is probably the time to be really honest with you:
Temples are never about “sticking to the plan” - if there ever is one. It’s a ritual guided by mystery, group alchemy and yeah like we said… all the things we definitely can’t foresee.
That’s what makes a temple special. Its power comes from listening closely. A temple is emergent, so every moment is a chance to follow the pulse of what’s actually real in the room.
Our facilitators are skilled to listen where each group that gathers in the temple wants to be taken. Some groups are shy, some hungry for dark depths, some here for the delicious joys of life.
We never fully know what’s going to unfold until we’re in it (that’s the magic). But if you still want to predict what you’re walking into, here’s the general flow we tend to dance with:
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OPENING
You walk in, drop your bags (maybe some of your armor too) and exhale. We’ll ease in together with introductions, temple agreements and some connection thangs to soften the edges.
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GUIDED SPACE
We’re talking paired or group exercises with the intention to get you into your body without pressure, build trust, spark chemistry and take the temple where it wants to go. We weave play and ritual - sometimes this feels like “ah yes this is cute” and sometimes like “wtf are we doing here”.
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OPEN SPACE
The doors to possibility swing wide. Follow your own thread. Wanna cuddle? Wanna be witnessed? Wanna lay in the corner under a fuzzy blanket and vibe? Wanna make out with that hottie you flirted with all day? Wanna sit in the middle and cry? Yes to all. Every flavor of human is welcome here.
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CLOSING
We gather, integrate, maybe share what moved us and close with care. A few last moments to simply be in togetherness. You leave in body and -hopefully- heart.
the one’s we’re here for
a temple is for you if you
dare to meet yourself really fucking honest.
want to become more confident in your body and expression.
are tired of your relational and erotic patterns and ready for something else.
crave intimacy that goes deeper than peak experiences or casual encounters (fill your cup here, baby).
yearn to melt, giggle, grieve and be undone in epic company.
want to explore your human-ness in a space where every emotion, every state of being, every expression belongs and feel the liberation of that.
long for humans that value intimacy and vulnerability and care without the spiritual bypassing or the sex party pressure.
believe that in times of disconnection and division, intimacy is resistance.
simply froth a good ritual.
The temple is open for all genders, sexualities, ages, ethnicities.
The temple is always a non-heteronormative space. We don't match anyone according to their gender identity. You have to be open to meet your own gender as a human at your choice of involvement.
If you are in a couple, then there must be an opening for you to work with other members of the group at your choice of involvement (e.g. eye gazing, physical touch, etc.) during the guided space. It’s not possible to just spend time with your partner, however it’s possible to navigate the temple in a way that’s suited for monogamous dynamics as well. We strongly encourage you to have an honest check in about needs and boundaries in your relationship if you decide to join while being partnered.
If you have a disability of some form, please eMail us at hello@lisbontemplenights.com to see how we can accommodate the space to your needs.
what people say
All the practicals.
Schedule.
4.45PM Doors open (please don't arrive earlier)
5.05PM We start (doors close - don't be late, no exceptions!)
5.05 - 9.30PM Opening, guided space, open space
9.30PM Closing
10.00PM Everyone out of the space
Venue.
in Penha de França, Lisbon
exact location will be sent in info eMail closer to the date
What to bring.
You and your body temple clean (please avoid heavy perfumes/scents)
A full water bottle
A sarong and a towel or two towels
Snacks if you cannot go without for the temple time (have a meal before, come well fed!)
Dress Code.
We have radically de-glamourised temple. Come in what makes you feel like your f!ckyes. For some this is lingerie, for others leggings and a tanktop. Make sure you feel comfortable and sensual and can move well. We always advise to bring layers to take off and put on top.
Refund policy.
You can request a refund through eventbrite up to five days before the event. There are no refunds available afterwards but you can transfer your ticket to someone up to 24 hours before the temple begins. Send an eMail to hello@lisbontemplenights.com (we only answer until 24 hours before the temple begins).
