Why do so many of us find ourselves repeating the same sexual patterns, even when they no longer feel fulfilling?

We explore the concept of sexual scripts aka. the unconscious beliefs, expectations, habits and cultural narratives that shape how we experience intimacy. Drawing on sexology research, personal stories, psychology, neuroscience and trauma-informed perspectives, we question whether the sex we're having is actually the sex we want.

We examine how family, culture, gender socialization, relationships, religion, media and past experiences influence our erotic lives, often without us realising it. We unpack the difference between desire and conditioning, pleasure and performance, authenticity and compliance, offering a compassionate framework for understanding why we do what we do in bed.

Topics explored include:

• What sexual scripts are and how they develop

• The difference between desire, habit and social conditioning

• Cultural and gender-based expectations around sex

• Why many people prioritise performance over pleasure

• Compliance, dissociation and trauma responses in intimacy

• The role of communication in creating conscious sexual relationships

• How early experiences shape lifelong patterns of desire

• Practical ways to identify and rewrite outdated sexual scripts

This talk offers an invitation to become more conscious, curious and empowered in your relationship with sex. Rather than asking what is normal, we ask a more meaningful question: What is actually true for me?